This week we learned about the meaning of personal relationships and this really allowed me to thing about relationships. (page 210) Wood gives a definition of personal relationships meaning those in which partners depend on each other for various things from affection to material assistance. This is a hard thing for me because I am so independent. (All women say they are, but I really am!) I do not like to rely on anyone (let alone my family) to help me in any way. Partners or companionships are hard to come by only because trust is such a hard thing.
I have 3 real friends that I can rely on and can tell anything to. These women have changed my life in many ways that i can not describe! People come in and out of your life for certain reasons, and i really believe that. I have 1 friend that is moving away and I am going to miss her dearly. She is one that i can call about anything, although she can sometimes have a smart mouth, she is a friend that everyone would want. We have shared so many experiences together it is going to be hard to let her move on. Although I know this may be the best thing for her, this is where my selfishness comes in, she will be just a phone call away.
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Rachel...
I can truly relate to this topic! I too had great friends that have moved away and it is hard to find new friends to replace them. Like you said they are always a phone call away but it’s still hard to deal with!! Goodbyes are always hard. But you know one thing that I'm slowly learning is that I can develop friendships with males. I never had male friends because I always thought they were going to try something with me or they were just insensitive but the older I get the more mature I am and I can talk to males as a friends and actually help them with their girlfriend issues. I have a male friend that is dating a girl whose parents don't know about him because they would be upset that he was black. I hate that things are still that way because I thought we were past the racism issue in America but that just proves me wrong. Anyway, I’m glad that I got rid of stereotyping all men in one category because they are sensitive and easy to talk to. Well some of them! LOL!
From personal experience, distance and time do not negatively impact true relationships. I’ve had friendships with both men and women and gone years with minimal contact with them but based on the bond we shared the next time I saw or spoke with them made it seem as if it had only been a week. Between phone, email, and other technologies like Skype you can stay in contact and it will seem as if your friend is just in another room.
Jennifer,
I see and understand what you mean. Since I have been through some stuff with men, i really do not want to see a man or talk to them. I know this is really bias and it will get over it, but this is how I am feeling today. Men are really good friends, although there are some that are looking for something else.
Rachel,
I can understand what you mean about a close friend moving away. In a sense it is as if you are losing that person. I wonder if you feel this way because of the emotional intimate connection you have with this person (p234). It sounds like this person was attentive, supportive and caring which are all qualities that can be found in feminine friendships. Since this can be difficult to find I am sure you and this person will be able to sustain your relationship even with the space between you. In today’s age it shouldn’t be a problem with you two seeing each other which will only help your relationship to grow even more.
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